I have a wedding to attend to in a few hours. And again, for the same couple, a day after that.
The soon-to-be newlyweds are a mixed couple. They're having two separate ceremonies, one in the traditions of the bride's family (from Northern India), and a much more American ceremony for the Groom's side.
I don't really like this setup. Weddings are already inordinately wasteful, and a historically a demonstrable economic drag on pretty much all people involved. To have two separate ceremonies is doubling the waste.
And to have them segregated like this culturally, also feels wrong too, for complicated reasons that I would never actually feel comfortable discussing with any of my friends or the bridal party (the side I'm friends with) since I'm not about telling my friends how they should live their lives. But it just feels like the couple is putting their own cultures above themselves and their union, and also trying to keep their separate cultural backgrounds distinct and separate. And as a kid coming from and embodying a polyethnic background, that kind of makes me super uncomfortable.
I grew up in a relatively unique circumstance and place in time where polyethnic people like myself were fairly uncommon, and I very seldom came across families that looked like mine. And now they're becoming much more common. And it's just kinda fascinating to see how different people are handling it. And while I don't like telling people how to live their lives, I also can't help but silently judge and disapprove of a lot of what I see. But at the same time, I still have a lot of faith in these people that even if they aren't handling their situation ideally, they'll probably do a good enough job of things and figure out shit as they go.
But even so, it's still intensely weird to me. I see my friends becoming much more open to cross-cultural exchange, and yet still subconsciously very fearful of cultural synthesis and the dilution/change of their cultures in ways I find regrettable and frankly small minded.